NaturAll Member Spotlight: Ronique's Story

Spiritual Goals for HAIR?!

At the end of 2016, I wrote a blog post on goals I have for my hair going into the new year. I didn’t want to retain 6 inches of growth. I didn’t want to reach waist length. Nope. I ditched the usual hair length goals, and opted for spiritual hair goals instead. What does that mean? Well for me it means wanting my hair to be aligned with the woman I am blossoming into and sometimes (most times) that can’t be measured in inches. 

What I love about womanhood, and frankly the journey of life, are the various stages one goes through. Not too long ago, I was a length-obsessed naturalista. Focusing on growing my hair taught me discipline – something I lacked in many other areas of my life as President and CEO of Procrastinators R’ Us. I was elated when I saw each inch of progress grazing against my back, and even more motivated by the oohs and aahs of those who came across my fro. I still held onto a notion I had as a little girl that long hair meant happiness. As a 10 year old, I thought those with long hair were automatically beautiful and had no problems. Long hair was the solution to all of life’s problems! Clearly, this isn’t true, but I think a few years ago when I obsessed over length, I subconsciously thought having long hair would make me happier, more beautiful, more unique, and more desirable.


It was important for me to go through that length-crazed phase. I got to see the potential for my hair to thrive. Plus, part of the reason I’m in love with my hair now is because of how closely we bonded when I gave it so much of my attention. But now, I’m just letting my hair be. I know I am beautiful, unique and desirable both with and without her, so I don’t focus on her to make me happy. (Thankfully, my hair is loyal and she doesn’t beat me up too much when I neglect her). Today, I am focusing on inner peace and joy, and I’ll free my hair to manifest at whichever length and style feels right for the moment.


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1 comment

  • Shonne

    Thank you for your story. I too struggle with the identity of where beauty is. I can also say that I too wanted the lengthy afro but after reading your story I think i’ll be alright with the length that I currently have.

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